L’amour 2 Aphorisms #98

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“The head is always fooled by the heart.”

“In love, first cured is always best cured.”

“All the passions cause us to make mistakes, but love is responsible for the silliest one.”

“The reason why lovers never tire of each other’s company is that the conversation is always about themselves.”

LA ROCHEFOUCAULD (1613-1680)

I had a dream.

The story of my first love.

For a few moments I was lost in my own world.

Nostalgy, you know…

I still remember my first love with dark blue eyes and fair skin looking at the flowers above. My first love was never returned. At that time I had no idea why? I thought I did everything in my power but no reaction. I still vividly remember the passionate feeling how I would change the world for her. Years later I realised I was more interested about myself, my own ego then about my first love. Than I stumbled upon this fellow’s maximes and learned a lot.

So, sorry guys about quoting this fellow LA Rochefoucauld again and again but I can’t help to admire his reflections of human nature, one of the most penetrating ever written IMHO. He published his collection of “maximes morales” in 1665 proving that human nature does not change. Period. His “maximes morales” are the result of half a lifetime of observation of his fellow human beings, recollected in the tranquility of “middle-aged invalidism” and condensed so as to be UNIVERSALLY applicable at all times. The above quotes are reflection of LOVE.

Do you guys think that his philosophy was bitter and pessimistic or just objective? Any idea? Was he  happy in his love life?

Do you remember your first love?

L’amour Aphorisms #97

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“True love is like ghostly apparitions: everybody talks about  them but few have ever seen one.”

“There is only one kind of love, but there are a thousand copies, all different.”

“We forgive so long as we love.”

“We never desire passionately what we desire through reason alone.”

LA ROCHEFOUCAULD

Aphorisms #9

Good friends

Good friends

“What men have called friendship is merely association, respect for each other’s interests, and exchange of good offices, in fact nothing more than a business arrangements from which self-love is always out to draw some profit.”

“Rare though true love may be, true friendship is rarer still.”

La Rochefoucauld

Looks like the good prince never had a friend in his long life. He sounds skeptical and bitter. Certainly there are so-called friends where the mutual interests and profit-making is the only motivation. I would rather call it a business association. In contrast, a real  friendship means to be there in good and bad times, unconditional support of each other and typically lasts for a lifetime. True, it might be rare, but it is even more valuable. My two cents.

Aphorism #7

 

Fallen

Fallen

“Our enemies are nearer the truth in their opinion of us than we

are ourselves”        

La Rochefoucauld

What an interesting observation! Know yourself! The prince suggests that we might listen to our enemies more carefully. They might know us better than we do ourselves. We can learn important lessons from our opponents about our own character. Sounds like it might not be a bad idea to have some enemies. Any thoughts?